Good Bye Bully

Ok, so tonight I had an incident. A incident that probably changed other people's view on who I am.

A friend of mine, whom I shall call Rosanne, locked out another friend, whom I shall call Timmy, out of the house in the cold. Mind you it wasn't that cold out, but it was cold enough for him to shiver. Rosanne and another friend, Jackie, wouldn't let Timmy in because they wanted him to 'learn a lesson'.

Timmy is from another country, he travelled quite a bit to different countries before settling here in Canada. However he only have been here for 2 years. His culture is different than Canadian's culture. So he has quite a bit to learn about Canada, the culture, the English language, ASL, and mannerism.

Because he is still learning the proper behaviour for different situtations, there has been cases where he doesn't act the best way, and in those cases, Rosanne, Jackie, and many other friends try to "teach him". How? By yelling at him, getting angry at him, hitting him, acting snobby to him, belittling him etc. In my word, Bullying. I'm new here to this city. I just met Timmy, so I'm still learning about him but I can see how the others are treating him from outside their circle, and to be frank, it's not nice at all. I don't agree with their method at all.

Tonight, it happened again. Like I said earlier, Timmy was locked out because he was not 'behaving', he was locked out for a good half an hour, and I was told not to let him in until another friend arrived, which would probably take another 10 or 20 minutes. But I ingored them and I went to get him, I felt bad for him. So I let him in. What do I get? Roseanne and Jackie are both angry at me because I let him in. Can you believe that?

They asked me why I let him in, I said, he had enough, he was outside long enough. Rosanne said she didn't care and that he needed to learn. I told her bluntly that what she was doing was bullying. She said I don't care, and she walked away.

Jackie asked me next, she mentioned that Roseanne told me not to let him in, I told her the same thing I told Roseanne, that it was bullying and it's not right. She also walked away and went upstair.

Roseanne later came down and said she was not mad at me.

My point is, with the recent situations with bullying toward gay teens and the suicides. Bullying is NOT OK. Bullying hurt people in every way, physically, mentally, and emotionally.

While I hate to admit, I was a former bully. I bullied a classmate in high school. I feel bad about it now and regret it. I know what it's like to be bullied. I was bullied, and it was a horrible feeling to be bullied. I wish I was grown up enough not to turn to being a bully when I was angry at her, but I wasn't, I was immature.

But I am not going to let those friend bully Timmy. He may have issues, but he's learning. I don't believe that bullying is the answer, and it will not teach him anything.

I think I will do a vlog 'It Gets Better' soon.

Thanks for reading.